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Let me start by saying that Tooter is going through a phase at the moment (well at least everyone keeps telling me its a phase) Boy I hope its a phase... He's rude, cheeky and disrespectful to me. Not at home that often, not in front of his Dad, but the minute we hit the gates of the school yard, I become a second-class citizen.
I'm pretty sure I've mentioned this in my posts before; I work full time. We have a situation where Hubbers can work part time and pick Tooter up from school etc and I work full time. My job is demanding. Fun, but demanding. I don't really get afforded the luxury of being able to go to school related stuff often. Hubbers is great with all of it though, he loves being an almost-stay-at-home-Dad. I try and make as much time as possible for the little man. I take him to school every morning, put him to bed every night, read stories together, etc and spend most of the weekend with him doing stuff - just the two of us. Even with this, I still feel guilty for working.
I SHOULDN'T FEEL GUILTY! I provide for our family! But I do.........
This week was:
- Really busy at work
- Hubbers had to go into hospital for tests (which was scary)
- Tooters attitude was epic
- Budget issues - last months string of birthdays/parties left us a little light
- Boiler needed serviced (worried about that costing a fortune right before Christmas!)
- Car service light went on
- Needed home heating oil (so not cheap)
- Hubbers' birthday on Friday....organizing the "ins" and "outs" involved for the weekend
He's a smart kid. Too smart at times. He's perfectly capable. He's just lazy. We went through this exact same situation at the start of last year. It took a few months to get out of it. He's stubborn. Ahhhhhhhh!!!!!
Why can't life be easy??? Or at least throw you a bone every now and then???? *I was feeling very sorry for myself here*
SO, what do you do when life throws you a pile of poop???
NEW UPDATED ROUTINE!!
Here's what we came up with for adjusting the kid related issues. I have to say, so far, its working really really well. I spoke to a few mommy friends and they were saying that I should share this new routine. It seems as though there are alot of parents in the same boat with their 6 year olds....cheeky attitude can be contagious ;-) So, here's what we came up with:
4 MAJOR RULES
Each one of these rules corresponds to 15 minutes of TV time. The amount of TV he can watch is directly related to how he does with these 4 rules.
If he completes all 4 rules everyday, he earns himself 1 hour of TV time after dinner. Otherwise, he only gets 15 minutes for each rule he sticks with.
In the evenings, after I get home from work, the 3 of us make dinner together and talk. We talk about our day, we draw at the kitchen table, we write in our story book. Anything that engages us as a family. After dinner is finished, we tally up his TV time and talk briefly about what he did / didn't do, and how he can improve (if needed) for tomorrow.
So far....this has been GREAT! He knows he's in control of the situation and he's proud of what he accomplishes in the day. To top it off; we had his weekly report sent home on Friday. All classwork completed and a few messages about how great he was in class!! RESULT!!!!!!!
We're sure that there will be bumps in the road but ultimately, we have a plan, a routine to keep us right. A lot of families can wing it and take each day as it comes. We can't. Tooter needs structure and routine and I've come to realize over the years that we do too!
Tooters and I even got the cake made for Hubbers!!
Even though I didn't get to post a project, I did get the chance this week to start my new feature : What Would YOU Do Wednesday. I'm proud of my new little feature! It gives all of you the chance to tell me what you'd do with my stash!!
Remember, when life deals you a pile of poop, hang in there, it'll get better ;-)
Happy weekend peeps x